Tough All Over

In my last blog you read about taking risks in life. I figured I’d like to give you a more in depth look at my life. See life isn’t always peaches and cream at least not for me. Like I said earlier “I have always believed that everything happens for a reason, good or bad, it all has a purpose.

I was in foster care for the majority of my life and those events changed my life forever. In April 2004, we (my brothers and I) were taken away from my Aunt and Uncle. Let me get you up to par on why we were living with them. See my mom had seven kids and we had been homeless for a long time up until about February of that year. My sisters went to foster care and my brothers and I went to live with my aunt. My mom went to San Diego where she met a man and got remarried. Now when we were staying with my aunt she wasn’t working at all, only my uncle, he was a construction worker at the time and they had three kids of their own. Having seven kids is a handful especially when only one person is bringing in income for the household.

My brothers Manuel & Jesus w/ myself in the middle

My brothers Manuel & Jesus w/ myself in the middle

Well eventually word got to child protective services that we were in my aunt’s care, not my mom’s, so next thing you know we were taken away from our aunt’s house and placed into Polinsky Children’s Center in San Diego. The Polinsky Children's Center is a 24-hour facility for the temporary emergency shelter of children who must be separated from their families for their own safety, or when parents cannot provide care. When we were taken away from our family, my brothers and I went through some very rough changes. Like any other child who goes through something like this, we were distraught and dismayed over the fact that we could no longer be with our aunt. Once we left we went with the police, who fed us McDonalds. We were taken to Polinsky where we ate more food. I never had so much food in my life, I kind of felt like royalty because we were getting a lot of attention and it was good. After being placed there, my brothers ended up leaving the next day to a group home. I was left all alone. Talk about changes, an eleven year old had to go through. Things were looking tough all over and I apparently didn’t know what to do. As time went by, it turns out that I was able to make a lot of friends. In July of that year I was sent to the group home were my brothers were and we were finally reunited once again. I learned over that time to be more optimistic about my life.

My brothers Cesar & Jesus

My brothers Cesar & Jesus

Once I learned how to change my attitude about my situation, things in my life started to get a whole lot better. In September 2005 my brothers and I moved into a foster home in Temecula were we lived for five years. With my new found optimism, I learned to make lots of friends. My personality was very outgoing compared to most and I had a new outlook on how I was seeing life. People would always ask me why you are always so happy, you are always smiling. It was simple I told them why do we have to spend our lives being sad about everything. There’s an old saying “When life gives you lemons, make lemonade”. With this attitude I graduated high school, went to my prom junior and senior year. I made lifelong friends who I still speak with to this day. My mother and family were there to see me get my diploma. The point I’m trying to make through this entire blog is: When things look tough all over, change your attitude, think about the positive not so much the negative. Think about how you can make the most out of the situation. Believe me, things are going to get better, you just have to continue to hold your head up high. One of the things I learned the hard way is that it doesn't pay to get discouraged. Keeping busy and make optimism a way of life, it can restore your faith in yourself.

My brothers Manuel & Jesus

My brothers Manuel & Jesus

One of the things that I learned the hard way, it doesn't pay to get discouraged. Keeping busy and making optimism a way of life can restore your faith in yourself.    Lucille Ball